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I Do Not Want To Save The Ta-Tas
Published on Monday, October 10, 2011 by

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Before you judge, hear me out.

Eighteen years ago, I was pregnant with my first child and my mother’s first grandchild.  At the same time, my mother began her personal battle against breast cancer.

When I was eight months along, she had one of her breasts removed.  The first words I heard her say coming out of the anesthesia were, “Is my daughter still pregnant?”  There she was, fighting for her life yet worrying about me.

Eighteen years later, my mother continues her role as a mother, grandmother and best friend.  EIGHTEEN YEARS LATER.

Was it really that long ago?

When I saw my first “Save the Ta-Tas” bumper sticker, I felt a knot in my stomach.  Did that say, “Save the TA-TAs?!  The TA-TAS?!!!”  I was stunned.

My mother had a BREAST removed.  She did not have a TA –TA removed.  When women are diagnosed, their physicians do not announce they have Ta-Ta cancer.  This is a highly personal, frightening and life changing illness.  The new breast cancer campaign sickened me.

And isn’t “Save the Ta-Tas” similar to “Save the Whales?”

Have you judged yet?  I hope not.  Because I have a little more to say.  If people become aware of breast cancer through this campaign, then I support it.  If proceeds from Ta-Ta t-shirts go towards breast cancer research, then I will nod in the campaign’s general direction.  I just won’t be wearing one myself.

What will I wear?  How about this neon pink stripe in my hair?  I never said I didn’t have a streak of tacky in me!

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My pink hair serves as a daily reminder to me of my mother’s personal strength. It also reminds me of others I know who have fought breast cancer – some alive, some now deceased.  And of the possibility that one day I may be facing the same enemy my mother has faced herself.

I had to go to several stores to find the actual pink hair dye.  Every shelf of every store had an empty space where pink should have been.

Pink hair, pink football uniforms, and yes, even Ta-Ta shirts.  Breast cancer is personal.  There is no right or wrong way to think about it, raise awareness about it or even stay silent about it.

Your thoughts?

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  • I won’t be wearing one of those t-shirts either.  They are breasts, not ta tas.  Just saying.

    I salute you and your mom.  Love the pink too.

    Have a terrific day.   🙂

  • I am so happy your mother survived breast cancer. And I love the hot pink hair. 

  • I am so glad you still have your Mom.  This is such a frightening disease but she’s beaten it!  Thank God!  “Ta ta’s” is fine for young guy’s talking about girls boobs.  It’s not fine to refer to “ta ta’s” instead of breasts in the same breath as referencing cancer.  It’s disrespectful I think.  I love you pink curls!

  • I agree with you and the others. It’s breast cancer, not Ta-Ta cancer. There ain’t nothing cute about it. I am so glad that your mom is a breast cancer survivor. Think Pink!

  • It’s wonderful that your mother survived. And I guess the Ta-Ta campaign is, unfortunately, an attention grabber and therefore effective in raising awareness and funds for research. But it does come across as making light of something that is devestating millions of women around the world. And for what it’s worth, I don’t think your pink hair is tacky. 🙂

  • Thank you for writing this post. The closest breast cancer has come to me was a cousin who thankfully survived the ordeal. She was quite devastated by the experience but is now doing well. I’m not a fan of ta-ta and booby ad and psa campaigns, either.

  • First of all, I’m really glad your mother has done well.

    Secondly, I totally agree with you about the Ta-Ta thing. That’s a slang, demeaning thing. It’s a far cry from the seriousness, fear, life/death, loss, bravery, love/family, that breast cancer is all about.

  • I think dyeing your hair is a lovely personal education campaign.  I am sure that people ask why you have a pink streak and it gives you a great opportunity to educate.  It is fabulous that your mom is still around with you and your kids.

  • Thanks for sharing yourself to your readers. You seem like a very strong woman and that is great.
    I will  bookmark this article.

  • susie

    Actually i have breast cancer at this moment, and the word ta ta’s does not change the seriousness of breast cancer.  Because cancer is so serious its nice to have some funny lightness about the whole thing.  Congrats to mother being cancer free!

    • Susie, your comment has brought tears to my eyes. Eyes that are so much more open. I still would not personally want a ta-ta shirt, but the lightness aspect of it – I had not thought of that. I see it so differently now. Laughter is the best medicine and it can’t all be clinical. Thank you so much for sharing Susie, and for giving me a new point of view. FIGHT HARD. My prayers are with you!

  • Ron

    A big congrats to your mother being an 18 year survivor!

    Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!

    A very dear friend of mine from Florida was diagnosed with a rare form of breast cancer when she was only 31 years old. Thank God she survived and has been cancer-free for over 15 years!

    LOVE your pink hair! And I think it’s an awesome way to support breast cancer awareness, Katherine!

    X

    • HOW AMAZING that your friend not only survived breast cancer but survived a rare form. SHE IS MY HERO!

  • Mel

    The pink hair–too cute!  People will ask, you’ll get opportunities.  That’s always a good thing.

    I’m no more a fan of the ‘Ta-ta’ t-shirt than I am of the ‘feel for lumps, save the bumps’ ones.  I’m not sure why, but I shake my head at it and just sigh.  I spend a lot of time teaching young ladies the correct terms for body parts, maybe that’s it?  I’ll have to give some thought to it and come up with my own answers, I guess.  I’m not offended–I just think it perpetuates an age old problem maybe?

    Anyway…..

    I’m glad you still have your mom and I’m grateful that the cure for breast cancer has advanced so much in the past 20 years.  It’s amazing how different the processes are today.I’m a survivor–gratefully so.  I get to be a Nana and a mom–which is a gift I wasn’t expecting.
    I’m sure your mom feels that same sense of awe every day.  She’s graced–as are all of you to have her.

    • I am speechless – thank you so much for sharing. I had never heard the lumps one – not crazy about that either.

      It is fortunate that I don’t know what they do now compared to 18 years ago… I pray I will never need to know. But I’m sure things have changed a lot. I feel so blessed that my mother is here to be with her grandchildren who need her. I am SO PROUD you have the same opportunity!!!!

  • nothing’s that simple. calling breasts ta tas might sound to you as if someone is belittling the issue.
    but in the grand scheme of things, it is a battle for public awareness. and if ta-ta’s work… they work.

  • Thanks for sharing yourself . I totally agree with you .

  • I understand the two points of view breasts vs boobies/tatas. but like Ibash said, whether gets the campaign noticed especially for the young ones whose attention span is like 0.

    I’m so glad to hear of your Mom’s victory over BCa. Seeing her grandkids grow is a most wondrous reward.

    • You brought a real tear to my eye… my mom is SO INVOLVED in the children’s lives… she sees them every few days. To think that she was fighting it when her first grandchild was born – and here she is today, five grandchildren later. I am so proud of her!

  • Breast cancer is such a serious disease, it should be taken seriously. I’m glad that your Mom is one of the luckiest and brave person who outwitted and survived from this disease. 

  • Crystal

    My favorite aunt fought and won the battle with breast cancer nearly 18 years ago. She jokes about her missing breast and is so proud to be a survivor. Everyone in my family (including my father, grandfather, uncles, and my son) wear PINK year round in support of this ongoing battle I may one day face.
    This is something more people should be open about but still so many are blissfully unaware.

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