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The Other One
Published on Wednesday, June 13, 2012 by

I am participating in a 30-day blog challenge.  I believe I have gone insane.  Today’s theme sure hit home.

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The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.  It’s a book I have decided I have to read.  Immediately.

Written by Bronnie Ware, this Australian nurse learned much from the elderly as she cared for them during the last weeks of their lives.

When Ware asked those facing the end of their lives just what they would have changed, common themes emerged.

All five of the top themes spoke to me in volumes.  The top one, however, hit me like a Mack truck.

“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

Think about it.  Stop, read it again and think about it.

I WISH I’D HAD THE COURAGE TO LIVE A LIFE TRUE TO MYSELF, NOT THE LIFE OTHERS EXPECTED OF ME.

I do not have to wait until my dying days to know this is my top regret so far.  In my eyes, there is ME, and then there is THE OTHER ONE.  The other one?  The person that would really be me, if I was indeed living life true to myself.

Me:  I don’t speak my mind and don’t stand up for myself.

The Other One:  “You have no right to speak to me that way!”  “I completely disagree and this is why.”  “If you yell at me one more time I am going to kick your ass!”  (NICKY, I DID IT I DID IT!  I CURSED ON MY BLOG!)

Me:  You don’t think I can be a stay at home mom and babysit other children for income?  Oh. OK.

The Other One:  I have researched everything, I have my license, I have the patience of Job and I now have four children I watch daily, giving me 500 a week.  I can make this work and my children now have me full time.

Me:  Everyone would freak if I got a “hearing” dog for my deaf dog, even though about a thousand people who own deaf dogs have told me it’s best.

The Other One:  “Come on honey, let’s go rescue an awesome older male dog at the pound!”

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Me:  The boxing instructor at the gym doesn’t really teach people who haven’t done this before.  I know they said I can go on in, but I won’t because I don’t want to be a burden.

The Other One:  That girl in there has much smaller muscles than mine!  I can not only do this well, but I can kick ASS.  (NICKY, I DID IT AGAIN I DID IT AGAIN!  THE “A” WORD!)

Small examples?  Maybe.  But in hearing about the top regret, I see I have a lifetime of things I haven’t done because others might not like it.

Let’s hear it for me having a purple streak in my hair next to my pink streak, two dogs, being a stay at home mom, politely speaking my mind when necessary, making jewelry, living in the Outer Banks, writing my book, having a different colored wall in EVERY room and getting a tattoo!  WOOT!

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  • You need to let “the other one” out for some fresh air and sunshine! I really like this post as I think that you are coming around to some good things for yourself! Go for it!!!! Jump in feet first and then see what you stepped on!

  • Ron

    BRAVA, Katherine!

    What an EXCELLENT, EXCELLENT, EXCELLENT post! I could actually feel your positive energy through your words!

    In the past few months I have felt a ‘shift’ in your consciousness – almost like a ‘coming out.’ And I’m so proud of you!

    Remember…be true to you, speak your mind, celebrate your talents, and let your light SHINE!

    ((((( You )))))

    X ya, my friend!

  • This is a post to make us all step back and think.  What we’d like to say and do versus what we actually say and do.  How we would ac or react if we didn’t worry about what people would think.

    Here is a quote just for you that I read on another blog.

    “Just keep moving forward and don’t give a shit about what anybody thinks. Do what you have to do for you.” — Johnny Depp

    It’s time to put a stop to building regrets that our future selves will have to face.
     

  • Excellent post. I’ve always tried to be true to myself. Sometimes so much that I get into trouble! Alas, I don’t think any of us can say we are 100 percent true to ourselves. You can still do it. Even the small changes can help!

  • You are a beautiful and talented woman.  Don’t hide your light EVER.  Some people may move away from “the other one” but you didn’t need them in your life anyway.  Baby steps!  “ass” today, “balls” tommorrow!

  • If you can do it, so can I – ‘bloody’ Oh my word! I did it too!  Not that I use that word really 😉

    How I wish I hadn’t lived most of my life hiding my light and conforming to what was considered ‘the norm’. You go for it, before you only have regrets!

  • Katherine, this post kicked ASS!! 500 points for each curse word you used, you fabulous tattooed, multi-colour haired-woman! Now kick “the other one’s” ASS to the curb. You are you and you are amazing. 🙂

    • Oh, and by “the other one” I meant the other “other” one, not the one who curses on her blog. 🙂

  • Tami Von Zalez

    Do it, do it, do it – whatever “IT” may be.  Life is too damn short to think coulda, shoulda, woulda.  I am maneuvering now to be debt-free and live my life in the tropics and wear dreads (if I so desire) in the near future.  

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  • Mel

    Woohooooo!!! You said ASS!  TWICE!!!!

    *laughing*  How liberating was that?!  And look….the world didn’t come tumbling down.  And nobody sent you to the naughty corner.  (yet…LOL  Where I come from, it costs a quarter–no naughty corner required, just a steady flow of cash.)

    Looks good on ya……well, not necessarily the saying ‘ass’ twice, but the determined ‘other one’ who I’m gonna believe IS you.  As for that ‘me’ you identified–voices in your head dimming the light.
    You CAN.
    You WILL.
    Apparently you ARE in some cases….
    It’s cool that you were willing enough to say what’s true for you, today and look at what you/others tell yourself/you….. and what you believe/know deep down under all the noise and hype the brain gives you.

    I frequently suggest that folks stop listening to their brain and start listening to their heart.
    I might suggest the same to you–as soon as you cough up the fifty cents.  😉

  • Great post. It’s important to “check” ourselves and make sure that we are doing the things that make us truly happy. That little voice inside can be pretty annoying though. I know it well 😉

  • I’m so proud of you. Seriously. xoxoxo

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