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A Roadblock
Published on Saturday, June 2, 2012 by

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Day two of the 30-day blog writing challenge.  I made it!  Today I am supposed to write about a roadblock.

Honestly, I can think of so many roadblocks in my life.  Roadblocks I have put up on my own.  Roadblocks that stop me from living the life I truly want to live.

Most of these roadblocks were self-created simply out of fear.  Fear of what?  WHAT OTHER PEOPLE WILL THINK.

I never speak my mind.  EVER.  I never fight back.  If someone tells me I am doing something wrong, I stay quiet.  Because I do not want to make waves.

And my blog?  I never really write in my own voice.  Because I keep thinking, “What if so-and-so reads this?”  “What if I put a curse word in it and so-and-so sees?”  “What if so-and-so disagrees and blasts me?”

Recently, Ron wrote something that touched me more than he even knows.  It was about his mother, her illness and about her never being one to upset the apple cart.

Ron, I printed that post to keep near me at work and at home.  To remind myself that I don’t have to be a doormat.  I am allowed my own opinions, thoughts and feelings.  And I am allowed to say them out loud.

I am, aren’t I?

Here is to no more roadblocks.

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  • Wow, Katherine. I guess I haven’t thought about my life in those terms, but probably need to. I do tend to speak my mind and upset everybody, but I am also very guilty of holding back on things in my life. I guess it all depends on what and who I am fighting for.

    • See though, you SHOULD speak your mind.  There is being honest and being rude.  You are not rude.  You know, there ARE things I fight for.  Of course the kids… but you would be proud of me… I have gotten up ALL MY GUTS and said something on two occasions to people who were abusing their kids in public.  Not fussing – I mean ABUSING.  Some things you just can’t pass by.

  • You are absolutely entitled to your opinions, thoughts and feelings. This was a very touching, honest post Katherine. 200 points for you. And I really hope that this challenge can inspire you to write using your “real” voice. I have a feeling we’ll be blown away if you do.

    • Hey Nicky, if I curse in one of my posts… no matter who I think will see it, will you give me another 200?

  • Ron

    What an inspiring, uplifting, and touching post, Katherine!

    And I’m so so glad you’ve decided to partake in this 30 Day Writing Project!!! 

    “To remind myself that I don’t have to be a doormat.  I am allowed my own opinions, thoughts and feelings.  And I am allowed to say them out loud.”

    You GO, girl!

    ((((( You ))))))

    Walking  through this illness with my mother has taught me so much. Illness, as challenging as it can be, really teaches you how to reevaluate.

    Bravo to you for making the commitment to speak your opinions, thoughts and feelings!

    X ya, dear friend!

    • I am actually all choked up reading your comment.  I have no words.  But see my smile and hug?

  • I too put up way more roadblocks than necessary.  I think most of us are doing the same thing.

    Have a terrific day.  🙂

    • You and me – a team!  I think we need to get together and tear down a few roadblocks!  And bring our blogging friends along!

  • Right on. There’s no reason to be a door mat. Well, unless your name is Matt. But yours isn’t so Kath, you’re in. (See what I did there?)

  • Free yourself!  People will not all love you.  But people who love you will keep right on loving you.  Be you!  And stop being afraid.  You have so much to give!  Take down those roadblocks, Katherine and let that redhead out!

    • Linda, you may not know this, but you actually inspire me a great deal.  You are never afraid to say what you feel.  You are YOU and you write as YOU…. you make me laugh, sometimes cry and you always come across as so strong and confident.

      • Katherine, you are a beautiful and intelligent woman. You have lovely kids, a gorgeous goofy dog, and the prettiest hair on the planet earth! I am confident in that I won’t allow people’s opinions to get me down. I am free in that I don’t mind making an ass out of myself. I seriously think our flaws are what make us endearing. (Also, I’m at an age where I care less about opinions of others. Fug ’em if they can’t take a joke!)

  • I like this!  Very well said, and I think you speak for a lot us, both blogging and in real everyday life.  I can relate.

    • Thank you so much… it is nice to have someone that understands!

  • Say what you need to say, hon.  Any people you might lose were never really with you to begin with.

    • In two sentences, you managed to tell me something I have tried to tell my kids forever – and never listened to myself.  I need to read that over and over and over!

  • Mel

    You are allowed.  In fact, you are encouraged.

    As WPIML told me over and over and over again–other people’s opinions of you are none of your business.  He was a firm believer of ONE opinion mattering–and that’s the Big Guys.  And since I’m made perfect AS IS (as are you)…….say what you want and need to say!  Do what you want and need to do.
    You’re loved exactly AS IS……today.
    Innit cool?

    That you posted a reminder to yourself is an excellent thing.
    I hope we can encourage you and reassure you into finding that voice you’re feeling is ‘unheard’.
    But if not–perfect……AS IS!

    *hugs*

    • WOW.  You have touched me so much – THANK YOU.  I think the hardest thing for me is to just like me for me and not to worry about others.  What a beautiful and thought provoking comment you left… I can’t thank you enough!

  • I was the same way. The last year-plus has made me look the other way. I do more speaking up for myself and saying my piece. Makes me feel better. Hope you’ll not have any more roadblocks!

  • Amen, Katherine. I’m glad you FINALLY feel like you do NOT have to be a doormat anymore! 

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